Motivation Monday: What Lies Within…

Posted by on Apr 14, 2014 in Egg Donation Blog Posts | 0 comments

What lies within

What lies within








Motivation Monday: You have not lived…

Posted by on Apr 7, 2014 in Egg Donation Blog Posts | 0 comments

Words cannot fully express the joy egg donors bring. Thank you to all of the selfless women who donate their time to help strangers.

You Have Not Lived Today…John Bunyun

Motivation Monday: Leap of Faith

Posted by on Mar 31, 2014 in Egg Donation Blog Posts | Comments Off

Motivation Monday: Not the Same Person

Posted by on Mar 24, 2014 in Egg Donation Blog Posts | Comments Off

Not the same person - Haruki Murakami, Heartfelt Egg Donation

Not the same person – Haruki Murakami, Heartfelt Egg Donation

Motivation Monday: Irish Blessing

Posted by on Mar 17, 2014 in Egg Donation Blog Posts | Comments Off

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!  Are you wearing green? Did you capture a leprechaun?  Did you eat your Lucky Charms?  Do you have corned beef and cabbage in the crock pot and will you drink a green beer or two? When I lived in the New York area, it was a local tradition to attend the St. Patrick’s Day Parade although I never did attend. I heard it was great fun. I am a ‘tad’ Irish and celebrate in small ways (an Irish meal and wear green, if I remember) and enjoy witnessing how the full Irish celebrate. I love the conversation and happiness of the day.

Today, I wish you a day filled with smiles, love and laughter and an Irish blessing or two.

Irish Blessing

Irish Blessing


Motivation Monday: Let it go!

Posted by on Mar 10, 2014 in Egg Donation Blog Posts | Comments Off

When’s the last time you laughed so hard you cried or felt like you would burst because of a full genuine smile? Well, if you haven’t experienced that in a long time, I suggest you get out and move and run or walk with Run or Dye“Run or Dye is the World’s Most Colorful 5K — your chance to have THE most color-filled day of your life with family and friends as you celebrate life, friendship, fitness, and fun.” It almost guarantees a lifting of spirits. Go for it and in the meantime….

Let it go - Run or Dye

Let it go – Run or Dye

Book Review: The Pea That Was Me, An Egg Donation Story

Posted by on Mar 5, 2014 in Egg Donation Blog Posts | Comments Off

My copy of  The Pea that was Me: An Egg-Donation Story (Volume 1)  by Kimberly Kluger-Bell arrived in yesterday’s mail.

My children (9 year old twin daughters and 7 1/2 year old son) were with me when I opened the package and they were excited to see what I received.  They immediately wanted to read it while standing over my shoulder. Love that!  When I asked them what they liked about the book they said, “I liked it because it reminded me of us and it was easy to read and understand.”

From my perspective this small soft covered book was a quick read, the illustrations were simple and visually pleasing, and it used accurate biological terms along with terms children would understand and relate to like a “pea”. After reading it through again, I noticed that the term embryo wasn’t used, which is  fine. In my opinion that detail can be filled in by parents as they read. Other details can also be filled in about their individual story as to how they came to be. In fact, there is a page at the end of the book where the story can be personalized with a couple of photos of your child and information about their birthday, the fertility Doctor’s name and other things that are known about the Donor.

This would be a great book  to purchase while expecting or as children get a little older and start asking about how they were made. It’s a nice introductory book that can help donor egg parents start the conversation with their children about their beginning. As your child/children age, they will help to keep the conversation going by asking more specific questions about their birth. It will be a fun time of exploration and learning for your family.

You can order your copy here: The Pea That Was Me,  An Egg Donation Story (Volume 1)

Motivation Monday: Expect Miracles

Posted by on Mar 3, 2014 in Egg Donation Blog Posts | Comments Off

This plaque sits on my kitchen counter. I see it multiple times daily. It is my reminder. I believe this to be true and you should too. This helps to keep me in a happy place.

What helps to keep you motivated, in a positive frame of mind and happy place?

Expect Miracles - Heartfelt Egg Donation

Expect Miracles – Heartfelt Egg Donation


You Guys Having Kids? Keys to Answering the Question Infertile Couples Hate

Posted by on Feb 26, 2014 in Egg Donation Blog Posts | Comments Off

Roseanne (From Maybe to Baby)  has some advice for how to answer the dreaded question of  ”You guys having kids?”

Roseanne (From Maybe To Baby)

Roseanne (From Maybe To Baby)

Shared from Roseanne’s blog post – February 14, 2014

For those of us fluent in the language of infertility, there are few words, so innocuously strung together, that are more likely to elicit a punch in the face as a response.  It would be so much easier if the answer was a simple “yes,” or no.  Our “maybes,” or “we hope sos,” are answers far more complex and seeped in misery than the vacuous question ever intended. Nine times out of ten, the poor soul asking the question has no idea that you have endured months or years of disappointment, and that you have a cocktail of fertility drugs flowing through your veins. With this in mind, here are some strategies to help keep you out of the county jail when an ignorant acquaintance, co-worker, or relative asks the dreaded question:

1)  Take A Deep Breath

Simple enough right? This is oh so critical.  The first few times you run into this question while struggling to conceive, will be like taking a hot poker to the eye.  Holding your breath will only make it worse.  I noticed that I held my breath whenever anyone asked that question, and while it improved my chances of being an olympic free diver, it made my responses halting and weird, which in turn made me feel more panicked.  The Yogis have this one people, trust them.  Unclench your fist and breathe.

2) Silently Acknowledge That It’s Not An Inquisition (Most of of the Time…)

Particularly if you are at some milestone in your relationship, or even in your career, the people around you are going to be curious to varying degrees about your life.  Realize though that most people are only mildly concerned and for the most part really don’t care what your answer is, as they are usually just making conversation.  Your answer is not going to change the path in their lives one bit. So aside from a few follow up questions at most, the annoyance should be short lived.  With relatives however, the implications may be more complex, which is why you will love #3…

3) Consider Using with a “Thimble” Response 

You don’t need to have read Sun Tzu’s The Art of War to know that having a plan can help win the battle.  In some ways this is a battle.  It’s the battle to keep things within YOUR comfort zone, not that of inquiring minds.  Here is where you and your partner can work together.  Come up with a short, sweet, and excuseless response, no bigger than a thimble, that the two of you are comfortable with sharing.  The answers can vary slightly to match the circumstances or audience, such as “the work answer,” “The Mom Solution,” or whatever.  It is up to you, but have something! One of my favorites was ,”Oh, we will get to it someday, but we are just soooooo busy,” which was the perfect segue to talk about other things. You could always just quip “yes,” “maybe,” or “no comment” and go about your business, if that suits you.  Say your thimble response at least 50 times.  Get comfortable.  Pick the tone of voice you love best and use it.  You never know when it may save your sanity…

4) Put the Question Off For Another Time

This would be wise in a work situation or in larger groups, if the person asking is someone who you are open to sharing your journey with.  You will need time and a safe, relaxed environment in which to answer the question.  Let’s face it, they are not asking what you had for dinner the night before, and having the annoying intrusion of uninvited others getting schooled on your private life is less than ideal. Talk about your journey on your terms and on your turf!

5) Remember That Boundaries are Healthy

Our culture is one that values openness and quick familiarity, even though it often breeds connections that are superficial at best.    Remember that you and your partner are the ones living through the dark moments of bitter disappointment, painful procedures, and tough choices.  You get to decide who has a front row seat and who gets insider information.  If your choice is not to share any of your journey with anyone, then so be it!  Make sure it’s your hand on the information valve, no one else’s.  There are things that friends and family may never understand and that is OK.  It’s not their job.  It’s up to you and your partner to keep each other safe.  There is nothing more effective than firm boundaries.

Everyone makes peace with their fertility journey at different times and in different ways.  Having strategies to keep yourself safe and comfortable along the way is as essential as a prenatal vitamin.